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Why digital media can cause stress

It struck me the other day, while travelling on the tube, that virtually every passenger was jabbing away at some kind of smartphone. Blackberries, Androids, iPhones… from a sexy, expensive, high-end gadget they have become ubiquitous. And, thanks to a multi-billion-pound marketing campaign and their inherent hi-tech addictiveness, we now feel we are missing out somehow – lacking, even – if we don’t have one.

And how else would we update our Facebook page every few minutes, catch up on all that desperately important email or, generally, make sure we were contactable and available every single waking second of every day? Let me ask that question another way – when did we decide that this was a good idea? Because, let me tell you, it is most definitely not.

When I start working with a client suffering from stress or anxiety, who is jaded, frazzled, exhausted and on the edge of burnout, one of the first things I recommend is that instead of remaining glued to their computer throughout lunch, they stop; take half an hour out of their hectic day; go outside and walk, breathe a little fresh air and remember that the world does exist outside the office.

'Health is the greatest gift, contentment the greatest wealth.'

Key to this activity is locking their damn smartphone in a desk drawer so they get a break from its incessant pinging and vibrating. I may sound like a Luddite, but I strongly believe that the bewildering array of gadgetry which now means we are can never quite relax or let go, is extremely unhelpful.

Our brains are miraculous things. They can process vast amounts of information; store a lifetime’s worth of memories; and through ‘neuroplasticity’ actually change their structure throughout our lives so we can learn Spanish or to play the piano well into old age. But they also need downtime, to process the ever-increasing amounts of sensory information with which we bombard them. If we don’t get enough downtime – which means activities we find relaxing and fun, sleep, rest and non-work-related stimulation – we make ourselves ill.

We start feeling stretched and stressed, perhaps irritable or snappy with colleagues, or as if we are suddenly unable to cope with a previously manageable workload. We may get anxious, with irrational fears about future events, or suffer from chronic fatigue, never quite feeling rested or recharged. If this sounds familiar, do three things: cut down on the caffeine, which stimulates your adrenal system and cranks up the stress and anxiety. Take that break at lunchtime and get as much exercise as possible. And look at your digital media consumption: do you really need to be emailing someone at midnight? Taking your Blackberry on holiday? Texting someone during your kids’ bath time?

Chucking your shiny new smartphone in the bin may be a bit extreme, but using it in moderation is not. After all, what’s more important than your health? Certainly not the latest ‘must-have’ gadget, however sleek and shiny it may be…

I run workshops through my company, Calm Self Workshops, for people struggling with stress. The Overcoming Stress workshops take place one Saturday a month at my East Finchley office and cost £150 for a full day.

If you would like to book a session with me or a place on my next workshop, call me on 07766 704210, email or use the contact form to get in touch.